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Love is in the air… or is it?

It’s time for our Blogger Talk! We asked bloggers Slavica, Kaitlyn and Franziska about love, Valentine’s Day and more…

Slavica

  1. What is your favourite love song – and why?

“So Sick” by Ne-Yo is actually more of a break up song dealing with the heartache of loving someone still while trying to move on with your life. To me it represents the lingering feelings we all have in our hearts even after relationships end.

  1. If you could select anyone – who would be your Valentine this year and why?

It would probably be with all my single friends because Valentine’s day always made me feel especially lonesome for some reason but with my girlfriends, I know It wouldn’t bother me at all because we would have each other.

  1. Romantic gestures aside, what is one of your favourite memories of an expression of love?

Knowing my significant other was always there for me when I needed them. It made me feel a little less alone in this world.

  1. Share with us an important lesson you have learned or experienced about love.

I discovered the hard way that it’s okay to ask for a break in a relationship. When I was in the 11th grade, I was having some personal problems and being very withdrawn from my partner which greatly affect our relationship.

We decided to first take some space apart but I ended up ending the relationship instead because I didn’t know how long it was going to take for me to deal with things and I didn’t want to keep him waiting but after two months of singleness I realized that I still really loved him and wanted to try again.

It took taking the pressure away from being in a relationship to really help me understand that I still wanted a relationship. And, thankfully he still wanted to be together with me too though a year and a half later we would eventually break up but that’s okay. To this day he is still someone important to me so regardless of what happened, I don’t regret either breakup because sometimes you need some perspective to know what you want and sometimes what two people want may be two different things so it’s okay to let go.

  1. Should children give Valentine’s at school? Yes, or No, please explain.

I always enjoyed Valentine’s day cards, I still have a collection from my elementary school days so I don’t have a problem with the cards because they are for everyone so no one is ever really left out. My problems were always the candygrams because you never know if someone was going to buy you one. I remember being really disappointed when I didn’t get one, like people didn’t like me or something. It always felt like a popularity contest to me.

  1. Love gone wrong……..what was your worst Valentine’s Day ever? What did you learn from it?

Probably when I was in grade 11 because me and my ex had been broken up for 2 months and it was the first Valentine’s day in two years where I was by myself and I realized how much I really wanted to have spent it with him which I did, along with my other friends, but not as a couple. A week later we ended up back together. It took the day of love to help me realize how badly I still wanted to be with him so I guess you could say that this was both my worst and best Valentine’s day.

  1. The big Valentine’s debate…….which is better, receiving heart shaped chocolates or flowers? Why?

This one is hard because I’m not that particular on flowers, I genuinely like all flowers and as much as I love chocolate, if someone buys me a chocolate from a brand I don’t like, I’m not really going to eat it. I think they’re both great…so if I got a chocolate shaped rose then I would be satisfied. One of my friends gave me one last year and I loved it. Chocolate shaped flowers are the best of both worlds.

Kaitlyn

If you could select anyone – who would be your Valentine this year and why?

I select my partner. It’s cheesy. It’s vomit-inducingly cliché. However, this is the second Valentines’ day I’ve celebrated (in the ‘traditional’ sense) in my 27.5 years. I have never been bitter about Valentines’ Day. I am not against it. It doesn’t spark a particular chord of excitement in me. But this year and last, I have had the pleasure of celebrating with a man who walks beside me in all life’s endeavours. Shares his support, encouragement and love. And receives mine humbly in return. That, to me, is worth celebrating on Valentines’ Day. And that is why I select no one else but my partner as my Valentine.

What should REALLY be celebrated and highlighted is Galentines’ Day! And I select ALL my best friends, family, and amazing women in my life who consistently inspire me!


The big Valentine’s debate…….which is better, receiving heart shaped chocolates or flowers? Why?

This debate (like many) has gone terribly wrong! It’s way too BINARY! Haven’t we learned there should be more than two options by now? 😉
We cannot assume that others want to be treated as we do – we must ask how they would like to be treated. How they would like to be shown love. Have you heard of Love Languages? There are 5. So the question becomes not “Which gift is better to receive?” but rather “Does my partner even LIKE receiving gifts as a show of affection?” Maybe they’d rather Acts of Service, Words of Affection, Physical Touch, or simply (my favourite) Quality Time. Skip the flowers and chocolate, unless we can both enjoy them together.

(That being said…I got both this year. The answer is definitely both.)

How do you plan to spend this year’s Valentine’s Day – February 14th?
I spent a week and a half leading up to Valentines’ Day alone in my apartment in a new town feeling quite isolated. (Okay – I DID leave my apartment to go to work and get groceries and do laundry…) While it was quite lonely, it gave me time to plan a scavenger hunt. So my plan is to see how good my partner is at solving riddles…

Franziska

If you could select anyone – who would be your Valentine this year and why?

Hawaii Five-O’s Commander Steve McGarrett because he is HOT! 

My amazing husband because he is my one and only Valentine 🙂


Share with us an important lesson you have learned or experienced about love.

The big Valentine’s debate…….which is better, receiving heart shaped chocolates or flowers? Why?

If it is not both, he clearly does not love you.

It’s Okay to be a Single Pringle in this Artificial Holiday We Call Valentine’s Day

Slavica Mijakovac

The holidays, in particular Valentine’s Day, makes it really easy for people to experience depression because we are constantly filtered with images of who we should be spending it with and what we should be doing. Whether it’s with family, friends or a significant other, the deal is, if you’re alone during the holidays, any holiday, then something is clearly wrong with you. Which, let’s be real, is totally stupid because being single doesn’t somehow mean you have a lonely existence.

I say that as a proud single person of many years, relationships don’t equate to happiness regardless of what season of the year it is. The same can be said for when you have family, that doesn’t mean you’re close to them. The people I am closest too aren’t those related to me by genetics, they’re the people I met in my life who gave me their time, love and support, not because of blood ties and obligations but because they care about me.

“Family not only need to consist of merely those whom we share blood,  but also, for whom we’d give blood”

~ Charles Dickens

This February 14th, I will be busy with school, so no real time for all that fancy romance but one holiday doesn’t designate when I show the people in my life that I love them. For example, one of my friends has had a really stressful year and had been experiencing severe anxiety and depressive symptoms so I made her a card, telling her about what she means to me and that I’m always here for her if she needs me. That made her feel so much better about herself and knowing that I could make her day a little better, made me feel happier too.

In other words, it’s okay not to have a commercialized Hollywood reenactment of Valentine’s Day. Being single and alone on this overly commercialized holiday is fine because unlike the other poor suckers who are stressing out about where to eat, who to ask out, or what kind of chocolates to get, you could be taking a nice bath, reading a good book, snuggling up with your furry friends, and just enjoying the peacefulness of singleness because sometimes you need to spend time appreciating yourself instead.

 

 

 

Don’t Forget the Cause

As Christmas approached, I was bombarded by requests to give to various charities. When I went to the mall I heard the ringing bells of the Salvation Army kettles. I received requests in the mail from Covenant House and the Christmas Wish Foundation, looking for a donation. There were many pleas from the Food Bank to help stock their shelves.

Now that Christmas is over and a New Year has begun it’s got me thinking about the plight of the less fortunate. Will they still get their basic needs met? Do people get back to their daily routine and forget about the needy when there’s nobody constantly reminding them?

As we move into the new year, let’s not forget that poverty doesn’t take a break. Let’s not forget that there are children and adults going to bed hungry in this country. There are people who have to choose between paying their bills and putting food on the table. There are people living in shelters who rely on others to help them make it through this difficult time in their life.

We need to work together year round to bring awareness to the plight of those who call the shelter their home. We need to remember that others depend on the kindness and generosity of strangers to help them meet their basic needs.

As we head towards Valentine’s Day let us find it in our hearts to remember to donate what we can to our community to better the lives of others. May we all continue to show our giving spirit throughout the year.

Let’s not forget the cause now that Christmas is over. The families that rely on the shelter are depending on all us.

Written by our community blogger, Marilyn. 

A Love Letter From One Friend to Another

Remember this? Oh those were the days.

To my dearest friend,

Thank you for being you. I am constantly amazed at your beauty both inside and out. You have a smile that sets a room a blaze and your laughter is contagious. You are full of spunk and personality but yet you have a quiet sensitivity that is a tune with the needs around you.
Each time I see you, I am blown away by how much you care for me. You ask so genuinely how I am doing and you never expect anything in return. You care for people, you listen to them and you make an effort to meet their needs, always putting others first and never asking for anything in return. You inspire me to be a better person and to do the same for those around me.
Friend, you encourage me to take on the world and to be an agent of change. The way that you push through the obstacles when going gets tough and stand strong when the world is up against you, is awe-inspiring. You’re passions drive you and you take life by the horns and demand change. You’re not waiting for the world to change around you, but instead you demand it changes with you. You are a women of courage, bravery and hope.
When I first met you, I didn’t really think we had much “chemistry” so to speak. We seemed so different at first, but the more we got to know each other, the more we realized that we had so much in common. We both had a funny dimple in our right cheek, our knees seemed a bit bulgy, and our mothers had the same first name. But once we got past the physical, we realized our similarities ran deep; we were kindred spirits. Our friendship was more than a summer fling. It had a strength that no strongman could break.
Lady, you mean more to me than any passing fad, any washed up movie-star, or any boyfriend who promises me the world. On this Valentine’s day, I want to give my love letter to you because without you, I wouldn’t know what real love is.
Love isn’t about the physical romance or the smoochey Halmark cards. Love isn’t about red and white and fancy dates. Love is about standing the test of time. Love is about accepting me with my dimply cheeks and bulgy knees. Love is about taking the time to listen to my rants and offering me a Kleenex as I ugly cry infront of you. Love is seeing me for who I am even when others tell you differently. Love is about crawling into my closet with me when I want to hide my pain from the world and dancing on the city bus with me when I get excited. Love is telling me the truth when I don’t want to hear it and holding me up when that truth makes me crumble. Love is unconditional of hair colour, teeth whitening, wrinkly skin, or where you live.
Love keeps on loving, even when there seems to be no more love to give.
Love is friendship. Love is companionship. Love is you.
Happy Valentine’s Day friend.

P.S. Here’s a song about how unconditional love can be. It’s so undeserving, so beautiful and what’s needed to trust, to hope and to care.

“The Ballad of Love and Hate” by the Avett Brothers

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