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CNOY 2021

CNOY goes virtual in 2021: Here why you should still participate

It’s cold out there, Niagara. And you know what that means! Coldest Night of the Year – West Niagara is back for another year. It has been a crazy and unpredictable year, but we are excited to introduce you to CNOY 2021 in a way you have never experienced before – virtually! We can’t walk and fundraise together this year, but there are still tons of ways to make the most of this event. Together, we can ensure everyone in West Niagara has a place to call home during the chilliest times of the year. Here’s why you should participate in CNOY 2021:

There’s no better reason to get some fresh air during the pandemic

After a month of lockdown in Niagara followed by continued physical distancing, it’s no surprise so many of us are feeling a bit cooped up. This year, CNOY couldn’t have come at a better time.  We cannot think of a more empowering reason to get outside for a little while. With this year’s virtual format, it’s easier than ever to incorporate your CNOY fundraising into a walking method that works best for you and your schedule. Whether you choose to walk 2k, 5k, 10k, or anything in between, you can walk at your own pace anytime between February 1st and February 28th.

This means you can do your CNOY walk all at once or (a new idea that we totally love) you can walk a little bit each day throughout February. With this approach, not only will you be raising money, but you may also develop a healthy habit to carry throughout 2021.

It’s an opportunity to connect with friends, family, and coworkers

Whether you recruit friends and family members to join your virtual team or use this opportunity for team building with colleagues, everyone on your team will be working together towards a common goal. During this period of isolation, meaningful connections with others (even if that connection is virtual) can go a long way to boosting your daily mood and overall wellbeing. So gather your team, create a fun team name, and set some personal and group goals to strive for together!

NOTE: Only walk with people you live with. We must continue to stay vigilant in our efforts to stop the spread of COVID-19.

People in your community need support more now than ever

It’s been a tough year in Niagara. The challenges we have seen our community experience are even more elevated for those without a safe place to isolate, without shelter from the cold, without a place to call home. It is stressful, sometimes embarrassing but especially terrifying to find yourself homeless at a time like this. But together, we can help families wipe away that fear in place of something else – hope.

When it was clear that we would be in the throes of the pandemic during our signature fundraising event, we wondered how we were going to pull this off in a way that is fun for you and impactful for the woman and families that need our help. Now, after months of planning, we have an exciting way to rally our community for an important cause. Despite the inability to walk together this year, we knew that canceling CNOY 2021 was not an option. Too many people in Niagara need our help – need YOUR help. Join us this season in our mission to give every family in West Niagara a home! Learn more about this year’s CNOY walk-a-thon and register to walk today.

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How to stay compassionate without compassion fatigue

If you turn on the news or scroll through your social media and instantly feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone.  Every day, it seems like there are new global issues that require your time, attention, and most importantly, your compassion. Over the past year, there hasn’t been a day that’s gone by without us hearing, speaking, or reading the phrases “COVID-19” and “Coronavirus”.  Beyond, the pandemic, there are tons of social issues that need your voice right now. So how do you remain dedicated to the causes you love without getting compassion fatigue?

Only get your news from reliable sources

Where do you get your news from? An overload of information and (dare we say) misinformation can contribute to your compassion fatigue. The correct information is important to keep us apprised of issues in our area, but it is possible to have too much of a good thing. To ensure you’re consuming only correct information and the right amount of information, choose a handful of reliable sources to keep you up-to-date. You can get just the right amount of information about homelessness in Niagara and how you can help by signing up for the YWCA Niagara Region newsletter. We promise to only send you the details you need!

Supporting your cause doesn’t have to be overwhelming

Often, social issues feel too big to tackle for one person and so we quickly feel overwhelmed by the thought of “but, what could I possibly do to make a difference?”. We get it. But, supporting the causes you love does not have been stressful. In fact, it can even be fun. Yes, fun! The YWCA Niagara Region is planning to have a ton of fun while supporting women and families experiencing homelessness during the annual Coldest Night of the Year walk-a-thon on February 20th. Reconnect with your friends and family through this virtual fundraising event while making a huge difference for families in Niagara. This event is meant to be stress-free so helping your community doesn’t have to contribute to your compassion fatigue.

Get outside and feel grounded

We’re isolated in our homes. We’re consuming digital content faster than ever before. The bottom line, we’re overwhelmed. Taking a break and going for a walk outside can be part of a new healthy routine for you to disconnect from the things that overwhelm you. Fresh air is great for clearing our minds and keeping us grounded. If you need another reason to get outside, check out our Coldest Night of the Year walk-a-thon event to tie your outdoor walks to a meaningful cause in Niagara!

Trust us when we say we know what it is like to care so much that it is stressful. Each and every guest to come through our shelter doors holds a very special place in our hearts. But we know it takes compassion to create change and we’re grateful for supporters like you who care so deeply too. Let us know in the comments below how you stay compassionate for the YW while ensuring you don’t feel burnt out!

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New Year’s Resolutions for 2021

I am not sure that I accomplished anything on my 2020 New Year’s resolution list (and that’s okay), but I know that it was important that I made one. New Year’s resolutions are an opportunity to set our intentions for the year ahead. I think that just by writing them down, we are in some way subconsciously more likely to implement them in our everyday lives, even if it is just in small ways. So I am continuing my annual tradition of creating New Year’s resolutions based on the teaching of the year prior. This is what I resolve to do in 2021, and I hope you’ll join me.

1.       Support more BIPOC creators and entrepreneurs

I have always loved shopping small and supporting local. But if 2020 taught me anything, it is that we need to be doing more to support the BIPOC community. One of the many ways I can do better to support the BIPOC community is to be more thoughtful about where I spend my money. The Niagara Region is full of amazing BIPOC creators and black-owned businesses and just a quick Google search can help me find them.

There are fewer barriers than ever to supporting the talented BIPOC creators in Canada. And we would love to hear more about the black-owned businesses that you love and support!

2.     Incorporating rest as part of my to-do lists

This year has been exhausting in so many ways. Even when everything is closed during lockdowns, I still somehow find myself with a mile-long to-do list every day. I often feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and underachieved. After hearing stories of parents homeschooling while working from home full-time and small businesses working double-time to stay afloat, I can’t believe that I didn’t recognize the signs of burnout in my own body.

I am not a parent or a small business owner, so perhaps I thought I had no reason to be exhausted, to complain, to not achieve everything on my to-do list each day. But, the reality is that everyone, no matter who you are, needs rest. Nearing the end of this year, I have already started this New Year’s resolution, but today I resolve to continue it. Rest is a priority which is why it is always at the top of my to-do lists.

3.     Be a generous leader with my knowledge

2020 was a year of learning. I learned about working from home, being a better leader, trusting myself, taking time for me, and so much more. I discovered that there are ways in which I am a leader and never even realized it before. So now, in 2021, I was to empower and enable the leader in me to support others and raise others up into leadership – whatever that may look like for them.

With all the lessons I learned in 2020, from professional to personal growth, I have knowledge and experience that may someday help someone else through a challenging time. This year, I resolve to be generous with all that I learned and work to build community through leadership.

4.    Be a better listener (and therefore better advocate)

At the YWCA Niagara Region, advocacy is a large part of the work that we do. One thing I have learned from working at the YW is that advocacy is a skill that’s learned and nurtured. First and foremost, advocacy starts with good listening skills. In order to empower someone’s voice, we need to hear firsthand about what is going to be helpful for them. We cannot assume we know what they need or what will be most meaningful for them in our advocacy. We need to listen to their story, believe their story, and be open to listening to their needs. Only then can we be good advocates for those who need our voices to be heard.

5.     Forgive myself for saying the wrong thing and try to do better

The other day, I said something that perpetuated an anti-feminist narrative and my husband called me out on it. Right away he said, “that wasn’t very feminist of you”. It was… embarrassing (read: mortifying) to say the least. I thought about that moment for a long time and beat myself up for it – why did I say something like that? Is that how I really feel? Am I not a true and honest feminist?

After being far too mean to myself, I realized something: All my life, social influences have been encouraging me to think with an anti-feminist mind frame. It is the way the world has always worked. So now, to think and act with feminist, I am constantly rewiring my brain. The reality is that, even as a die-hard feminist, I will say and think the wrong thing sometimes. But I have since realized that these moments are actually just learning opportunities to rewire my feminist thinking so that I don’t make the same mistake again. I have forgiven my feminist self and that is progress.

This isn’t a comprehensive list of everything I want to accomplish, but it is a start. It can be daunting to set ourselves up with mile-long lists of resolutions – and it doesn’t always set us up for success either. But I believe these resolutions are reasonable, measurable, and actionable. Most importantly, I think these resolutions and impactful – for me and for others. So, if you’re looking to set some intentions for 2021 that will make your community a better place, I hope you consider some of the items on this list for yourself!

Things we learned in 2020

Things we learned in 2020… possibly the worst year ever

We’re nearing the end of the year, and just as many others do, we are reflecting back of the year to see how far we have come, what we have learned and how we have grown. This year… well, this reflection feels a little bit different. 2020 was filled with so much fear, uncertainty, and isolation. But, a lot of good came out of the adversity. That is what we’re talking about today on the YW Blog.

Here are some of the things that we learned during the worst year ever:

Niagara is the best place to live

Okay, so, maybe this isn’t something we learned so much as it is something that was reaffirmed. But it is worth mentioning – Niagara is the best place to live. Our community surrounded us with hope during some of the darkest times we have seen in over a decade. Despite our uncertainty, we knew we would pull through because of all of our supporters letting us know they wouldn’t let us fall down.

Not only that, but each and every member of this community is doing their part to make Niagara safer and healthier during the pandemic. YOU are wearing a mask, washing your hands, keep a safe physical distance. YOU are supporting small businesses and non-profits during challenging times. YOU are making sure no one is truly alone. Niagara is the best place to live… because of YOU.

A sense of community is important (and CAN be achieved virtually)

This one is a specific nod to the first-ever virtual Niagara Leadership Summit for Women 2020 held in October. Months into the pandemic, we were all feeling the notorious “Zoom Fatigue” like never before, but we knew our community needed a (virtual) space to rally together. NLSW 2020 was another area where we were full of uncertainty. Would people show up? Would people be too burnt out? Could a virtual summit create the same sense of community as our in-person event?

Not only did you show up, not only did you engage, not only did you connect… but we had one of the best Leadership Summits yet! Our hearts were filled with gratitude as we watched attendees actively participate in over 15 workshops, seminars, and panel discussions hosted by 20+ speakers. Together, we became empowered in our leadership and our ability to lift others up into leadership roles. Together, we reignited the sense of community we had been missing for 6 longs months. Together, we pledge to be compassionate, dedicated, innovative leaders as we navigate through these unprecedented times.

Niagara is a community of allies – and they had our back

We weren’t sure what to expect when the COVID-19 pandemic reached Canada and Niagara, but we could tell we were in for some hard times. Through every curve ball thrown at us, we always had an ally who could support us and see us through the instability. When we needed fresh produce to provide healthy meals, community partners like The Soup Kitchen stepped in. When we needed PPE to keep shelter guests and staff safe, foundations and granters like United Way and the Niagara Community Foundation made their opportunities known. When we needed to shelter high-risk guests and individuals who may have been exposed to COVID, the Niagara Region created a safe space.

For these long ten months, it has been a team effort to navigate the strangest times. There are so many more people, community groups, and organizations – more than we can count – that have advocated and supported Niagara’s most vulnerable. And we are beyond grateful for you.

While 2020 was nothing like we imagined (or ever could have anticipated), getting this far is nothing short of a miracle. We’re grateful to take a moment during the blur of the holidays to reflect not on the challenges and trials of 2020, but of the good we have seen in the community in spite of it. While we miss our community like crazy during the lockdown, we know that we will come out of these times stronger and better than ever. We cannot wait to see you in 2021!

Women’s homelessness during the holidays in the midst of a global pandemic: Why you should care

Women’s homelessness, like everything else that has been impacted by COVID-19, is different this year. This year, homeless women’s realities have worsened. 

Limited access to family

The Niagara Region is seeing a spike in COVID-19 cases in late December. As the region sits in the Red Zone, Niagara residents are advised to limit their indoor contact with others. For many, this means the holiday season looks a lot different; for women and families experiencing homelessness, it means limited access to their support system. A province-wide lockdown (in preparation for the spike in cases due to the holidays) is around the corner, only worsening the realities of those who are already struggling.

This could also lead to the worsening of other issues such as mental health issues. Being unable to connect with the people they love could push those experiencing homelessness to feel loneliness and despair. 

Precarious and scarce work

For families already struggling in poverty, the holidays are always an uphill battle. Creating Christmas magic seems impossible when a shoestring budget is barely enough to cover living expenses. Now, many of these families, particularly women-led families, are struggling to survive among lay-offs and limited seasonal work. Women who were able to find seasonal work in retail during the holidays in the previous year are experiencing, first hand, the impact of the pandemic.

The reality is that the holidays look nothing like our previous celebration leaving many of us feeling disappointed and lonely. All of this is elevated for women and families at the YW navigating homelessness during the holidays. At the YW, we rely on our community to help us navigate such challenging times. We are grateful for the support from local businesses and organizations that have identified the need in the homelessness sector in Niagara and taken action to help those struggling most. 

As we prepare for a month-long lockdown following Christmas, we ask our community to do what they can to help the women and families struggling in isolation during the challenging weeks ahead. If you have the means, please consider giving: https://secure.e2rm.com/registrant/donate.aspx?eventid=121795&langpref=en-CA&Referrer=https%3a%2f%2fadmin.e2rm.com%2fEventUserInterface.aspx

Susan’s Journey: A story of perseverance

One of the most recent team successes starts with Susan and her 4-year-old son.

Susan had a relationship breakdown with a best friend that she was sharing an apartment with, leaving her homeless and seeking shelter.

She worked tirelessly to support her son and find housing in his school zone, while also trying to find a new place to call home.

Susan, like many other single supporting mothers, was searching for housing on an Ontario Works budget until her son was old enough so that she could go back into the workforce. Unfortunately, with no family support and the price of childcare, this was Susan’s only option to sustain herself and her son.

Susan finally found a place for her and her son after going to 9 housing viewings and making sacrifices regarding her housing wants and needs. But every time, she heard the same response: “We just don’t think that this is enough space for you and your son,” or, “we ultimately decided to go with a single working adult instead”. With Susan’s limited budget, she was forced to try and make a home out of either a bachelor or one-bedroom apartment. She often gave the bedroom to her son and made herself a space in the living room.

Susan felt completely defeated. She felt guilty for letting her son down and not being able to provide for him and get out of the shelter.

However, Susan persevered, and with the help of the housing stability worker, she was able to secure a two-bedroom apartment in the city of her choice.

It took Susan 10 viewings, but ultimately, it worked out as a best-case scenario, providing her with adequate housing just on time for Christmas! With her perseverance and some help from the YW, Susan and her little one enjoyed the holidays in their new apartment, in which they found some peace and stability.

We would like to thank the Delta Bingo of St. Catharines for their support in making Susan’s success possible. Delta Bingo of St. Catharines helps us to support the operations that take place in our St. Catharines shelter found on King Street. The success of our operations and our clients would not be possible without their help!

Linda’s Story: Helping women invest time in themselves

Linda came to the YWCA in October of 2018 with her two children. When she first arrived, she was struggling with depression. Her life was all out of sorts. After the tragic loss of her mother, depression started to settle in and affect her daily life activities. Linda stopped doing the things that brought her joy. Her depression started getting in the way of necessary things as well, such as paying the bills and taking care of her children. Her struggles with mental illness pushed her to start consuming drugs. She kept this to herself and suffered in silence. After some time, Linda moved to the Niagara region and found the YW.

It was evident that she needed help to get back some of her self-esteem. FACS was involved and Linda needed someone to be a voice for her. Then, Linda and her children were brought into the On-Site Transitional Housing program. There was so much turmoil within Linda’s life, that she felt overwhelmed with her children and her ex-husband, who was her biggest challenge. With the support of the YWCA staff, Linda was able to develop skills to stand up for herself. Linda eventually allowed her children to go live with their father so she could work on herself. She completed a year in the On-Site program but still had a long way to go. Linda came back to the shelter to continue her journey, but the COVID-19 pandemic brought things to a standstill. Still, housing applications and phone appointments with doctors and counselors were put in place.

At this time, Linda has moved onto the YWCA Court St. Supportive Housing Program where she can live independently and work on herself without the distraction of shelter life. Linda is very thankful for the care and support that she and her family received.

We would like to thank the Delta Bingo of Niagara Falls for their support in making Linda’s success possible. Delta Bingo of Niagara Falls helps us to support the operations that take place in our Niagara Falls shelter found on Culp Street. The success of our operations and our clients would not be possible without their help!

Sarah’s Story: The Light at the End of the Tunnel

Hi my name is Sarah. I’ve lived through the YWCA’s housing programs for the last few years. In the time I came to the YWCA I was broken in so many ways.

In the time I’ve lived at the YW’s St. Catharines Shelter, I have gotten help with my mental health with the support of the Women’s Advocates who have set me up with Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA). I have also been an addict for just over 11 years so I have also been connected with Community Addiction Services of Niagara (CASON). I think I would living on the street if I never came into the YWCA housing program as well as never been able to accomplish some of the things I have been able to.

The advocates have also helped me go away to treatment for 5 weeks and I was able to complete the program. I have had a lot of things happen to me, bad and good. The advocates have helped me find a doctor, that lead to me being connected with psychologist. Having a psychologist has helped me understand why I am the way I am and ways that I can cope without spiraling. I have been given 6 different diagnosis, and am slowly getting the help I need.

If it was not for the advocates seeing something in me, that I could not see for myself and when there was no light at the end of the tunnel, the advocates were always there assuring me I could believe in myself and showing me there could be a light at the end of the tunnel. All of the advocates at the YWCA have helped me and for once I have hope and am not ready to give up just yet.

I am so incredibly grateful for the YW shelter and staff and for everyone who makes it possible for this shelter and services to be accessible to me free of charge. Thank you to this team and to the donors who have made my recovery possible.

Thank you,
Sarah

The YWCA Niagara Region would like to thank Delta Bingo of St. Catharines for their ongoing support to allow us to continue to serve our community. Delta Bingo of St. Catharines makes our operations possible from keeping the lights on, heating our shelters in these colder months and putting food on the table for hundreds of women and children. Without the support and donations of Delta Bingo of St. Catharines, success stories like Sarah’s would not be possible.

 

Supporting Niagara’s women in need virtually during a global pandemic

Organizations like the YW experience extensive barriers when trying to transition programs to accommodate the new virtual world we live in. From a lack of technology and gaps in training for the virtual landscape, it can feel impossible to support every woman, children and family that needs our support on the Niagara Region.

However, we are now excited to announce and that our Women’s Addiction Recovery Mediation (WARM) Program is currently being hosted VIRTUALLY via Telus Business Connect every Monday from 6pm-7:30pm. To get connected is quick and simple, all you would have to do is connect with the facilitator Maggie through email or phone warm@ywcaniagararegion.ca or 905-246-4483. Once you have connected with Maggie she will email you the invitation for the virtual group and explain the easy steps to get started.

Since WARM has transitioned into a virtual setting clients of WARM have expressed how grateful they are to still be offered the services they are in need of and are interested in while staying safe in their own homes. It is important that in these difficult times that WARM is still being offered to individuals in some sort of way while staying mindful that not everyone has access to virtual meetings or feel comfortable in that setting, WARM is able to connect with individuals via phone call or email. If you or someone you know is interested in WARM please reach out to Maggie at 905-246-4483 or warm@ywcaniagararegion.ca

The YWCA’s WARM Program is supported by Delta Bingo of Fort Erie. Their ongoing support of this Skill Development programming is vital for our ability to offer these services while keeping our clients safe at home. Thank you Delta Bingo of Fort Erie for making this work possible in pre-pandemic and mid-pandemic times!

Stacy’s Journey: Overcoming Tragedy

Stacy’s story of hardship began at a very young age.

While both of her parents struggled with substance abuse, Stacy was forced to enter the foster care system. At the age of 9, Stacy lost her father in a motor cycle accident. This was just the start of a tragic series of losses in her life.

In her family foster home, Stacy suffered from abuse for years. But finally , at just 15 years old, she escaped and found refuge at an emergency foster home.

There, for the first time in a long time, Stacy was able to find stability and balance in her life. She eventually moved into her own apartment and completed her high school and was voted Valedictorian – an accomplishment she is incredibly proud of.  She graduated with high honors and was given a full scholarship to pursue a college education! Stacy went to Niagara Collage and graduated as a Niagara Scholar of the Corrections Program. An incredible accomplishment!

Shortly after, she found a job in an Open Custody Program.

After years of hard work, challenges and finding her way on her own, Stacy finally felt like things were on track. She was finally living the life she was meant to live.

Unfortunately, a short time later, Stacy lost a close uncle and then just four months after that, she lost her grandfather. The loss of her loved ones was difficult, more difficult than she ever could have imagined. She struggled to cope, so instead, she drank. During this time, other tragic losses continued with the passing of a best friend due to cancer and another death of a friend by suicide. Everyone she loved was leaving her. Lacking the support and coping mechanisms necessary, Stacy turned to drugs which led her down an even more treacherous path. Eventually, she lost her job. Now, everything she worked so hard for was gone.

Stacy finally stepped foot in the YWCA Niagara Falls shelter in 2015, it was the first of many stays she had with the YW. Her impulse to rebel sometimes lead to Stacy being asked to leave the shelter when she did not comply with shelter guidelines. In shelter, the Women’s Advocates worked with her to identify her needs and she was introduced to the STOMT Program.

From the Niagara Falls shelter, Stacy entered into the YWCA Housing First Program. She continued to struggle to achieve her goals due to her substance use, but her Women’s Advocates continued to fight for her. The YWCA staff saw so much potential in Stacy. During her stay in the YW’s Housing First program, she found out she had a heart infection and was hospitalized for 2 months. Something that seemed so terrible turned into something good when this shocking news and lengthy hospital stay became a turning point for Stacy.

Finally, Stacy was able to enter recovery for her substance use for 6 months and was thrilled to find out she was pregnant. At this time, she was transferred into the YWCA On-Site Program. She gave birth to a healthy, happy baby boy named Tyson. Tyson is now Stacy’s entire world.

“He gives me purpose and motivation to keep going.”

Stacy has now successfully completed the On-Site Program and is about to move into a beautiful two bedroom unit through the YWCA Off-Site Transitional Housing Program.

When asked, “What was the best thing about the On-Site Program?” Stacy stated, “The best thing was the support from the staff and knowing I was accepted back without judgement”.

As she moved into the final stage of the YW’s Traditional Housing Program, her Women’s Advocate asked her, “If there was anything you could change about the programs at the YWCA, what would that be?” Stacy stated, “I would not change a thing. I am very happy with the commitment from the staff and would like everyone to know that the YWCA staff’s persistence saved my life.”

It is through the support and partnership of Delta Bingo Niagara Falls that the YWCA is able to provide ongoing support to the most vulnerable members of our society. Thank you Delta Bingo of Niagara Falls for your dedication of the work and services of our YW Culp St. emergency shelter.

Hidden homelessness: We need to think about women and their families

The stereotypical image of a bundled women asleep on a sidewalk is what comes to mind for most Canadians, when homelessness is mentioned. However, that is not always the case, the reality is more varied and complex. With no roof over their heads and no door to lock safely behind them, women are at a greater risk of physical, emotional and psychological harm. In Canada, women’s hidden homelessness is largely present. Women with precarious living situations are highly vulnerable. The number of young women that are homeless is alarming which is why a shelter is a safe space for them.

Women’s homelessness is often hidden and largely underestimated

Women’s homelessness is rarely visible. We often think that it looks like someone sleeping on the street, but homelessness can also be couch surfing with friends, trading sex for housing, or living in a tiny, overcrowded apartment. All these describe the hidden homelessness that makes it difficult to accurately estimate the number of women and families experiencing homelessness in Canada.

In 2019, the YWCA partnered with local image maker Michal Pasco. Together they embarked on a project to shine light on the faces of homelessness. The ‘YW Faces’ objective helped to bring awareness to hidden homelessness.

Women are constantly at risk when homeless, thus they tend to hide more. Their focus on safety first leads to the undercounting of women’s homelessness.

“This undercounting is not unique to the Canadian context: global trends demonstrate that women have been under-represented in research on homelessness, in part due to the hidden nature of their homelessness.” – The State of Women’s Housing Need & Homelessness in Canada

By using inefficient measurement strategies and largely undercounting women, we also fail to identify the level of need for infrastructure that support women and families in poverty. Effective research can better inform policies and interventions that give women access to the resources they need.

Intergenerational homelessness starts and stops with mothers

Canadian evidence shows that adult homelessness often has its roots in childhood experiences of housing instability and violence.

“I thought it was the way life was…there was no safe house, there was no shelter that a wife or women could run to and be protected. So, many women, including my mother — they stood there, and they took it…and I took on that generational trait. You were just supposed to take it.”

There is less attention on the childhood experiences that are intertwined with the experience of the child’s primary caregiver, which in many cases is a child’s mother.

We must take action to break the cycle and address the housing challenges faced by many Canadian women. Addressing the housing needs of women, particularly the families headed by single women, is a critical aspect to solving chronic and intergenerational homelessness.

When we fail to address the needs of single mothers and their children with a lack of resources, we create a condition for their children to continue the cycle of homelessness.

The reality is that you can’t truly help a family if you’re not helping the whole who leads it. We know that generational poverty starts and ends with mothers. This is why safe environments and critical services are needed to help entire families out of poverty.

Public systems disproportionately drive women to poverty and homelessness

Women’s homelessness can be seen as interpersonal violence but can also be rooted in structural violence. Structural violence stems from social structures and systems put in place which are driving women to poverty and homelessness.

An example of such public system failures includes contradictory polices across systems (between social assistance, child welfare, and social housing) that make it difficult for women to qualify for income or housing supports.

Most social assistance systems cut entitlements for a mother as soon as her child is apprehended by child welfare, putting her at risk of losing her housing. This dramatically affects her ability to have her children returned to her care. Similarly, housing providers often consider a woman over-housed if she loses custody of her children. Nor will they consider the mother’s family size for future housing entitlement if her children are not currently in her care. Recognizing the harmful cycle in this one area could have a dramatic impact on homelessness amongst women.

Last year, YWCA Niagara Region served more than 500 women and 230 children with emergency shelter or transitional housing programs. Consistently over-capacity and frequently spread thin, the YWCA Niagara Region advocates for policies that prioritize women’s well-being and stability. Help us advocate for a better life for women in Niagara.

 

Meet Sarah: A look into homelessness in a pandemic

Sarah’s story is full of challenges, twists and turns, but she has never let any of that stop her from striving to be a better person. She first reached out to the YWCA Niagara Region in 2015 when she was faced with homelessness after leaving an abusive partner.  She struggled with her mental and physical health after suffering long-time abuse and the homelessness in a pandemicpassing of her infant son. All hope felt lost as Sarah faced barrier after barrier to get her life back on track. But then she walked through the YW’s doors.

Sarah has received support through a variety of our programs including off-site transitional housing, On-site Transitional Housing and our skills development workshops. Sarah’s journey with the YW was also the start to her mental health journey – an important step for identifying and understanding the symptoms she was experiencing. Access to these services has been critical for Sarah’s recovery and her journey to self-sustainability. Now, with support from her women’s advocates (social workers), she is able to manage her mental health on an ongoing basis.

In On-site Transitional Housing, where she is currently working the program, Sarah has been working towards her goals of practicing mindfulness and stress management as well as acquiring new life skills like household budgeting. Sarah was starting to make plans for the future, big plans, and then COVID-19 hit Niagara….

“I wake up every day and for a moment I forget about COVID and the pandemic, but then I remember and I start to feel stressed out.”

COVID-19 hit a lot of YW guests hard and Sarah was no exception. Her autoimmune disorder makes her worry often about contracting the virus and what would happen if she got sick. But she is grateful for the support of her women’s advocates that “keep [her] on track” and calm because she knows she “has someone to talk to” about her fear around the pandemic

In her experience with the YW, Sarah is so grateful for the staff, who she says have always treated her with respect no matter the circumstances.

“The staff are on the top of their game,” said Sarah. “They go above and beyond and they stay on top of everything.”

As Sarah eagerly awaits the end of the pandemic, she looks forward to her plans for the future including going to college for community service development. With this education, Sarah can begin a rewarding career where she can use her lived experience to help others struggling to manage their mental health. She is also excited to rekindle her relationship with her son who she had to put up for adoption many years ago.

Despite the challenging times that a pandemic brings, Sarah’s exciting future gives her hope to push forward and remain on her path to self-sustainability.

“I am going to keep fighting,” she said. “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything, right?”

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Thriving Through COVID-19: Parenting during a pandemic

During a global pandemic, even the most basic of routines completely changes – including how we cook at home. Cooking, at least for me, is therapeutic in uncertain times like these. It is up to us to keep ourselves and our children nourished and healthy during these times of uncertainty.

Three Simple Recipes to Make with Your Children

Deciding what to cook for your children can be difficult due to other active stresses in our lives. Although it’s fantastic to support our local restaurants, sometimes it’s not as affordable as we’d all hope. Cooking during COVID with the kids home from school may be a delicate balancing act, but there are simple and quick recipes your children can actually help you prepare! The more hands the better, right? Here are some yummy recipes that children can help you create in the kitchen.

Healthy Gnocchi Kids Can Help with!

Crispy sheet pan gnocchi and veggies is not only healthy, but extremely delicious! Gnocchi is fast-cooking and your kid(s) can help chop up the veggies (as long as you’re watching them!) and can also help to season them. You don’t need much for this recipe, and you can even sub out vegetables depending on what you have readily available in your fridge or freezer.

A Fancier Twist on Pizza

When I was a kid, I always thought the best times in the kitchen with my mom was when she would buy those Kraft pizza kits, and we would get to roll out the dough on the table and put as much sauce and cheese on as we wanted. If you want something healthy yet still affordable, check out this French bread pesto chicken recipe that includes all kinds of nutrients. It’s a somewhat healthier alternative to regular pizza, and it’s still an easy recipe that your mini chefs can help prepare with you. Your child will actually be able to create the French bread pizzas on their own; all you have to do is chop everything up and pop it in the oven. Easy!

Fast and Easy Peanut Butter Balls

I wanted to include an easy dessert recipe because we could all use a sweet treat right now. This homemade dessert actually has some healthy benefits to it. The recipe is for healthy peanut butter balls where kids can help measure the ingredients and roll the balls. I’ve made these a few times before and they are seriously delicious.

Fun Activities Kids Can Complete in Quarantine

With the pandemic going on, it’s so much harder to keep kids entertained as just about everything fun is closed right now. But there are actually many different activities children can get busy with in quarantine. I think it’s all about getting creative during times like these and helping your child to explore their imagination a little more.

Three Creative Activities Kids Will Love

For preschoolers, try to get them building a construction paper rainbow. This activity can help promote creativity and creates a learning opportunity to identify colours. There are  a couple online activities listed on the same website as above that include a Ladybug rock craft and a calm down sensory bottle (targeted towards toddlers). Again, these are two fantastic activities to get your child’s creative juices flowing. In my preschool years to elementary school, I can say my favourite activity ever was hide-and-seek. A classic and so fun! You can even play in the backyard too as we’re approaching nicer weather outside.

When kids can learn to get creative and think outside the box, it will help them to relieve boredom and maybe even pick up some new passions or hobbies. There are many mothers within the Niagara Region struggling to get by during these challenging times or to purchase things for their kids for them to stay active and healthy in quarantine. If you are looking to donate to those in our community that are struggling more than ever right now, please visit the YWCA Donate page.

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Women and COVID-19: Global Pandemics are Women’s Issues

When COVID-19 hit Canada like a hurricane, we all batten down the hatches and hoped for the best, unsure of how long the storm would last. Unfortunately, as a country, we didn’t originally consider how this unique experience would impact different groups of people – specifically, how it would impact women. Now we’re seeing COVID-19 have a disproportionate impact on women and not for the reasons you might expect. While more women aren’t necessarily getting sick, we are seeing women feel the weight of the pandemic in three main areas: the healthcare sector, their wallets and their families.

Women in Healthcare

How many times have I walked into a hospital or retirement home and been greeted by a female healthcare workers? I cannot think of an encounter when this was not the case, can you? This shouldn’t surprise me knowing that 75% of healthcare practitioners and 87% of healthcare support staff are women, according to the World Health Organization. But I never stopped to consider what this disproportionate gender representation in healthcare would mean for women when we found ourselves in a global pandemic.  Every day, women across Canada put themselves at risk to support the population affected by COVID-19 on top of the regular healthcare needs to the greater population. The frontline workers at the YW are a perfect example of this – making extraordinary sacrifices to help the underserved.

Women and Money

Women are getting disproportionately hit harder by the COVID-19 pandemic when it comes to financial stability. Many female-dominated industries such as hospitality, childcare and education are experiencing significant layoffs and, in some cases, permanent closure. Layering on top of this devastating reality is the facts that women historically have less saving to live on during these challenging times.

In 2018, women earned 13% less than their male counterpart in Canada. In the States, the figures are even worse. The gender wage gap widens even further for marginalized women, making it even harder for women in Canada’s diverse communities to survive during this season of layoffs.

Women and Childcare

When schools and daycare centers started to close early on into the pandemic, women immediately felt the impact of the world shutting down. Historically, women are more likely to take on the unpaid caregiving role of children and elderly family members than their male partner, especially in cases where a woman is the lower income earner. This means that even women who weren’t initially laid off from their work have had to step away from their careers (and stable incomes) to provide care for dependents. This struggle becomes even more devastating for single-parent households – 80% of which are led by women in Canada – when caregivers need to choose between working and taking care of their children who are home from school.

The impacts of the COVID-19 pandemic have touched the life of nearly every woman in Canada. And these burdens left behind by this pandemic will long outlive the virus itself as women in our communities struggle to recover economically, mentally and emotionally. Help women in your community rebuild after the storm with a donation to the YWCA Niagara Region.

WNAH

Coldest Night of the Year in support of WNAH

Jessica never thought it could happen to her. She never imagined herself homeless… let alone homeless with two dependent children. But when Jessica fell on hard times, she found herself and her children, just 8 and 9 years old, in an emergency shelter. With only a year’s time to pick the pieces of her life back together in this living arrangement, she knew her family needed something more stable in order to set a plan for the future.

Looking for a fresh start and safe place to raise her children, Jessica packed up her car and headed to West Niagara. She researched about the support given to those in need through the YW’s West Niagara Affordable Housing program and was soon connected with her transitional housing worker, Keshia. Within a week of connecting with WNAH, Jessica and her two children were housed in Grimsby in May 2019. With a place to call home, Jessica worked with Keshia to set goals including establishing a budget, achieving her high school diploma and getting her children involved in the community. Not everyone gets a shot at a fresh start after they fall down, and Jessica didn’t want to waste it. She decided to take the opportunity to achieve her long-time dream of becoming a nurse.

After just one year in the program, Jessica has worked hard to achieve and surpass her goals. She returned to school and received her high school diploma – in fact, she just picked it up last week! She has already been accepted into multiple post-secondary programs and is hoping for an opportunity to begin her nursing studies in September 2021. She has already secured employment in the homecare field as a client companion – a job she enjoys.

WNAH has not only helped Jessica get back on her feet, but it has also given her children the chance to experience a fulfilling childhood. Both of her dependent children have become part of the Grimsby community. They’d discovered a love for their gymnastics lessons, swimming at the YMCA and have just started their mentorships with Big Brothers Big Sisters. Jessica is even looking ahead to the summer and enrolled her youngest in this upcoming baseball season!

“I feel more a part of Grimsby. This is our town,”

– Jessica

Jessica is also proud to now be leading by example for her two older children that live independently – showing them that anything is possible even after you fall down.

Today, we’re fortunate enough to share Jessica’s story and we thank her for her courage to tell it. When we asked her what inspired her to tell us her story, Jessica said she wanted to spread awareness about the resources that are available to those in need including the YW’s WNAH program. Without the support of YW and community services, she wouldn’t know where she would be today.  

Thank you to everyone who came out to support people like Jessica and her children in our West Niagara Affordable Housing program by participating and donating to the YW’s Coldest Night of the Year West Niagara walk.

Dear Feminist Me: Moving Through 2020 with a Feminist Lens

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We’re already one month into 2020 and a lot of people have been working hard on their New Year’s resolutions. Some people are looking for eat healthier this year, or hit the gym at least three times a week. Here at the YW, New Year’s resolutions look a little different as our clients work to make 2020 a year of stability and growth. This may be the year they find affordable housing for themselves and their families, or it could be a year of empowerment as they build the courage to leave difficult environment and come to the YW for help. Everyone’s resolutions look different and this year, so do mine.

This year, I am dedicating to my feminist self in hopes that creating these healthy, self-positive habits now will continue on for me for years to come and maybe even help some people along the way too.

Be proud of who you are

Every person is a unique complex being with an identity comprised so many different layers. This year, I want to be proud of every one of those layers that makes me unique – that makes me, well, me. An important layer of my identity is being a woman and being a feminist woman. I no longer want to be shy about talking about the female experience. This year, I will be loudly proud of my identity, speak openly to my male peers about my unique experiences and refuse to let my female identity to be quieted.

Don’t quietly accept sexist treatment

I can’t think of a situation that makes me more uncomfortable than unprompted street harassment. It happened to me recently and I am sure it will happen again. Except next time, I won’t let a stranger makes me feel uncomfortable or ashamed for walking down the sidewalk alone. I recently learned that if someone makes you uncomfortable in public, you can tell them. You can make a scene and draw attention to the situation. You can yell, “Don’t you see you’re making me feel uncomfortable?!” and “I don’t like the way you’re talking to me?!” If you’re tired of keeping your gaze low, staring at the sidewalk and praying a catcallers doesn’t decide to follow you down the street, you have options.

Talk about the taboo because being “ladylike” is overrated

It’s 2020 and, while it is hard to believe, there are still women’s issues that are taboo to talk about. Important, meaningful topics that are “unladylike” to talk about. Birth control, sexual health, mensuration, post-partum depression, sex work, the list goes on… when we never talk about these topics, they become a seed for shame in our lives. If we don’t talk about these things, there will be no one to advocate for the person too embarrassed to go to the doctor with women’s health concerns, or the struggling new mom who doesn’t understand why she is so sad during what she expected to be the happiest days of her life. Whether I am telling a personal story or supporting a friend or family member talking about her female experience, this year will be a year of making the taboo not taboo anymore.

Don’t be embarrassed to exercise your basic human rights

It is my basic human right to walk down a public sidewalk at any time of the day. It is my basic human right to go to express my opinion on topics that are important to me. It my basic human right to skip my makeup routine if I want to. Yet, when I do these things, I feel embarrassed and judged and sometimes even unsafe. Entering this new age of Feminist Me, I am going to work harder to understand why I feel this way when I go against the grain and take steps to empower myself when I exercise my basic human right. I know I am in a fortunate position to be able to be in public alone, speak up when I want and express myself however I feel – it is time to be proud about it.

My resolutions for the start of a new decade look different than they ever have before.  And I know this is the first step of many to seeing and moving through the world with a feminist lens. I am excited to take charge of empowering me this year and I hope I am able to empower other women who feel embarrassed, isolated, judged and afraid to talk about their unique female experience. So cheers to a new year and a new decade of female-forward action.